In honor of the current revamping of Whole Being RN to be more congruent with the name WHOLE BEING, I wanted to share with you my perspective on Finding Gratitude.
Gratitude is a very important piece of life and business. Once you get it right, everything just falls into place.
It’s kind of funny how we change. When I was introduced to being intentional with my gratitude, I taught it and used it as an attitude, as something you project.
A while later, I had an “Aha” moment when I learned that gratitude is not just about the attitude you have, but it is something tangible; it is a practice and a state of being.
Did you just have an “Aha” moment too?
Gratitude is made tangible through daily practice. When you practice gratitude, a transformation takes place, and suddenly you go through your day looking for the ordinary things that you are grateful for.
Researcher Brene Brown, Ph.D., says “It is not joy that makes us grateful, but gratitude that makes us joyful.” Practicing gratitude and being in the state of gratitude means that every “problem” you encounter is not a problem, but an opportunity to learn and grow.
So how do you begin?
- Start with yourself. Grab a journal or a piece of paper and at the end of each day spend a few minutes reflecting and write down three to five things you were thankful for that day. It could be anything big or small. In a few weeks or days you will be expanding to 10 or more reasons each day you were grateful.
- Be thankful out loud. Say “thank you” out loud even when no one is physically around to hear it. For example, every time I find a penny or a dollar on the ground, get a perfect parking spot, or find an opening in traffic, I give a smile and say “thank you” out loud (it actually happens quite often).
- Spread the love to your family. Once you have your gratitude practice fit in, you can spread the love to your kiddos and loved ones. My 6-year-old daughter has a gratitude journal, and when she goes to bed she thinks of three to five things she is grateful for each day. Sometimes they are things that might sound silly to grown-up ears, but it is an important start.
Also get your spouse or partner involved — some days we talk at the dinner table about what we are thankful for, and it is an amazing change from complaining about a day of work or school.
- Spread the love to your workplace. After you have the gratitude thing rolling pretty well in your personal life, spread the love to your workplace. Encourage your coworkers to start a personal gratitude practice, and after three weeks of steady gratitude work, add a community-gratitude list to the wall in your break room (you could use a dry-erase board, or a simple sheet of paper). Tip: If someone writes something negative, be thankful for the learning experience and turn their negative statement into a positive or solution-seeking question.
There are so many rewards to being in a state of gratitude and having a daily gratitude practice. The big one is joy — Joy in your heart, in your home, in the eyes of your family, and at work. You will see increased productivity, improved behavior, and a more creative outlook; the results are really limitless and abundant.